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There's a moment in your life that will change the trajectory of your life forever. Not this big dramatic event, sometimes it can look like a quiet Tuesday evening when the kids are asleep, the house is clean and you take a quick glance in the mirror before lugging yourself to bed. But this time you don't recognize yourself in the mirror. Whether it is the weight, the darker circles, the split and brittle ends, or you just notice that the light inside is just way too dim.

I actually have found myself in this same scenario time and time again. Unrecognizable, unhappy, and unfulfilled. And the crazy part? Everything around me looked fine on the outside. Life was moving, things were functioning, I wasn't in crisis. But on the inside I was completely stuck. Like my body was on autopilot and my soul hadn't caught up in years.

That night I think my frontal lobe developed a very vital part. The part where you stop just surviving and start deciding. Because that's the secret most people don't tell you, that becoming her isn't something that just happens to you. It's something you have to choose. Quietly, privately, before anyone else even notices the shift.

So I made a decision. Not a soft, maybe-tomorrow decision. A real one. I decided that if my life was going to change, I had to change first, and that meant getting serious about the small things I kept brushing off. The alarm I kept snoozing. The workout I kept skipping. The routine I kept meaning to start. All of it.

I started with alarms. Not just a wake-up alarm, intentional alarms. One for water. One for sunlight. One to remind me to move my body before the day swallowed me whole. It sounds small. It wasn't. Those alarms became anchors. And anchors became habits. And habits became her.

I got strict about my morning. No phone for the first 30 minutes. Sunlight on my face before a screen touched my eyes. A workout, even when it was just 20 minutes, before I gave my energy to anything or anyone else. I stopped negotiating with myself. She doesn't negotiate. She just shows up.

The schedule, the routine, the structure, it wasn't about being rigid. It was about finally respecting my own time enough to protect it. When you build a life with intention, you stop living by default. That shift? That's where she lives.

"For I know the plans I have for you, declares the Lord, plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you a hope and a future."

, Jeremiah 29:11 NIV

Before you decide who you want to be, know this: God already knows. The version of you that you're reaching for? She's not out of reach. She's been the plan all along. You're not starting over, you're finally walking in the direction you were always meant to go.

– Identity Edition
This month's reset is less about your to-do list and more about your mindset

1. 1. Write down who you're becoming, not who you are right now. Future tense. She works out. She drinks her water. She shows up. Write HER down.
2. 2. Audit one habit that doesn't match her! What's one thing she wouldn't do that you're still doing?
3. 3. Do one thing today she would do! Make the bed, get the workout in, say no to something that drains you.
4. 4. Say it out loud "I am becoming the woman I was created to be." Sounds simple. Does something powerful.
5. 5. Give yourself grace! She's not built in a day. But she IS being built. Every Monday is a brick.